This one is for the men, myself included, and is not a judgement, but rather a pep talk.
Providing the X or Y-chromosome to your successfully birthed off-spring does not qualify you the title, Father, really… Sure biologically, and legally speaking you’re the father, but throughout the life of your child, you must continue to earn this title through active involvement in the growth and raising of your kids. You may find yourself separated from their general proximity but your involvement is still necessary so that they “feel” your positive influence in their lives in some way.
Some of us have not passed on the X or Y-chromosome, we too have to work hard to make sure our influence is felt, and I’m not necessarily talking about myself. A friend confided, he has “adopted” the father role for several non-bio children. The rewards for that positive influence, yet fairly small effort, have echoed back to him in the form of love and appreciation of his care.
Even with the effort we put in, there is no guarantee that our children will “turn out” the way we envision. This is not the point of our involvement. We do what we do so our children know what a loving father is and continue our loving involvement regardless of our own desired outcomes. That, is the gift we give them.
My point, be the Dad that your children deserve, adopt others that could use a Dad’s positive influence, your children need that loving involvement and the long-term rewards for you, a legacy of love and respect that your children will always know.
WINFIELD WORD WEAVING 
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